Judgmental Man Refuses to Hold Work Gatherings at Girlfriend's Apartment Because of Décor

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Ally Perry • Writer and Editor
Jun 24, 2023 3:00 PM EDT

Acceptance is a pretty essential part of relationships. If we can't appreciate someone for who they truly are, there is little hope for our dynamic with them to be a happy one. Nonetheless, that doesn't stop people from having romantic partners who they barely even like, let alone approve of. 

Realistically, most of us will have our gripes about our significant others, and different tastes in home décor is a pretty pedestrian one. However, not everybody is going to take that to the judgmental heights of one Redditor, who feared the opinions of others when it came to his girlfriend's interior design choices.

Complaining on r/AmItheAsshole that he was scared to socialize with colleagues at his partner's place, he blamed her 'juvenile' interests of animation and sea creatures which decorated the apartment. Unsurprisingly, Redditors felt he had taken in an unnecessary step by hurting her feelings over this. This probably goes deeper than plain old professionalism. 

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    Rectangle - 02r/AmltheAsshole u/decordilemma • 3d 2 3 1 AITA for telling my girlfriend her home decor is the reason I won't host a work gathering at her place. Asshole
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    Font - I've (M32) been with my girlfriend (F29) for over a year now. She's smart, funny, a bit quirky, and has a serious job with a good salary. We have a great time together and generally get along very well. The only thing is her choice in home 'decor' is bizarre, to put it frankly, and not something you think a normal, grown adult would be into. Her apartment is definitely a reflection of herself and interests. Not in the best way though.
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    Font - My girlfriend has wall dedicated to animation in one room of her apartment, like Futurama pieces and etchings of some weird triangle guy. Then there's the wall of framed preserved insects in another room. But not insects like butterflies or moths. Instead she displays tarantulas, beetles, and large stick insects. Her bathroom has a subtle theme of the ocean-pretty common. But instead of starfish or shells, she has a little anglerfish nightlight, a small vampiric squid painting, and then a
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    Font - I would say a majority of her home decor and furnishings are okay. The apartment itself is very modern and sleek. It's just the random decor and juvenile-ish themes like cartoons, insects, and bizarre ocean creatures, is off putting.
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    Font - This is where I might be the AH. I avoid bringing people over to her place, especially people from my job, because of how juvenile it looks. Everyone's impressed when they see the high rise, but that quickly fades once you enter. The one time I brought a work colleague over they ended up telling me after that they found her insect wall terrifying. I work in finance and appearances and first impressions are important.
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    Font - My office will hold casual gatherings where we get together for a few drinks, good food, and we rotate hosts. And this time, it's my turn. The problem is my place is under some construction and not an ideal place to be right now, so I've been staying with my girlfriend. My girlfriend suggested that we host my colleagues here since she has the space and thinks it'll be fun. I told her I planned on skipping my rotation and seeing if the next person would be okay with hosting early. She kept
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    Font - My girlfriend got mad and said at the end of the day, it's not my space and these things bring her joy. She also said that she is indeed an adult woman, which is exactly why her apartment is decorated in such a manner. I love my girlfriend, I do. And it's okay to have different interests. But does an adult really need to decorate with them besides a few things here and there? I mean, my own mother asked if my girlfriend was autistic after she saw the entire apartment for the first time. S
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    Font - thecatinthemask 3d Asshole Aficionado [19] 8 Awards | I think her home decor is childish. I.N.F.O.: What age children usually have preserved tarantulas and vampire squids as home decor? [edit] Obviously, the question was rhetorical. It's fine if you think her apartment's ambience isn't appropriate for a work event, but YTA for dating someone you don't actually like and then expecting them to dull who they are so your coworkers don't get the vapors. Yeah, I know you say you like her, and I
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    Rectangle - ParsimoniousSalad 3d Sultan of Sphincter [841] 5 Awards YTA. So you don't like her interests. You don't have to be judgemental about it. Your one and only experience bringing someone over they were "terrified" of the insect display. So this one person and your own distaste has convinced you that everyone would be terrified?? You don't need to bring your work colleagues over, but if you yourself look down on your gf because of her interests and how she chooses to decorate, maybe you s
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    Human body - mumoftheweek 3d 1 Award YTA. Your girlfriend sounds cool.
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    Rectangle - Competitive-Way7780 3d Asshole Enthusiast [5] 3 Awards Yeah, you don't really love her. If you did, you would rejoice in these FANTASTIC examples of her quirkiness. She sounds great. YTA because you're pretending to love this woman but you secretly look down on her and feel superior. Break up with her and let her find someone who will cherish her awesomeness. : Reply 13.0k
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    Rectangle - T Ryanookami 3d 7 Awards I hate people who gatekeep adulthood. They're stuffy and boring and have no sense of whimsy. Why do people have to give up the stuff they enjoy just because they reach an arbitrary age that makes them an adult? That's bullshit. Love what you love and celebrate it until the day you die! And the triangle dude is almost certainly Bill Cipher. ⠀ Reply 4 11.3k +
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    Font - CryptographerBest909 3d 1 Award YTA - Let's say for a second that her decor could actually cause problem in your work (which I very highly doubt), there are 2 ways to go about it: 1. Say that your collegeaus are a bit pretentions and close-minded, and you don't think they would react positively to decor that's outside of their norm. 1. Insult her taste and her. ? If this was really just about your collegeaus, you would have gone with the first option. But it's not, is it? The way you talk
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